5 Ideas To Keep Your Romance Sizzling.
Just the other day, I was listening to to talk-back radio show discussing how romance seems to disappear from long-term relationships. It caught my interest due to the fact that my spouse and I were celebrating our thirtieth wedding anniversary and I was in desperate need of some creative input to make the ocassion special. However, as each caller added their thoughts and comments, it became obvious that the general opinion was that the once loving and romantic feelings, so predominant when we first start a relationship, definitely hit the back-burner as time goes on. Why does this happen? Do we become “lazy in love”? Is it a common problem in all long-term relationships? Probably, yes and no.
In so many instances, couples believe that once they’ve committed themselves to their partner, that’s it! Love will grow all on it’s own and there’s little or no need to nurture the “lovingness”. How far could this be from reality? Perhaps, if we liken it to planting a flower garden; then don’t water it, fertilize or pull out the weeds. Yet, we still expect our garden to be full of blossoms! Chances of this happening are pretty slim. Our loving relationships also require care and attention if we want them to grow.
How can you keep the romantic spark alight? Well, getting back to that radio show I mentioned earlier, I’ll list several ideas that were mentioned. Maybe something here will spur you on to re-creating that romantic anticipation that may be missing in your relationship.
# Re-live that first date. Whether it was a night to remember, or a mind-numbing disaster, you’ll have fun reminiscing and sharing how you felt at the time. Also, if it was the “date from hell”, it’s a great way to make up for blowing it!
# Call or text message your partner every now and then just to say “hi” and you’re thinking about them. Leaving your lover “special” romantic messages in places that you know they’ll find them is also a great way of saying that you care.
# Plan a romantic dinner. You do the cooking or have it catered for at home. Just the change in routine will make it memorable for your partner.
# Arrange a romantic weekend getaway – just for the two of you – a sure winner and definitely worth the effort.
# Set aside time each week where you and your partner have “couple’s time”, where there are no interruptions, no outside distractions. This is a time to talk with one another, to share thoughts, feelings – whatever! This is a chance to listen to each other, something that many of us don’t do very well.
This short list of ideas for keeping your romance sizzling is not new, nor is it ground-breaking with innovations for bettering relationships. It is, however, a list of simple things we can do to let our partners know we care about them. Use it as a catalyst to get your creative juices flowing and I’m sure you’ll be able to come up with many other ways to achieve your goals.
Put simply, taking the time to think about your relationship and the needs of your partner, your “flower garden” is being well-tended, giving your romance every opportunity to sizzle and blossom.
