7 ‘Essential’ Flirting Tips For Men.
If you happen to scan the many dating forums and chatrooms on the internet you’ll no doubt soon realize the sad and sorry fact that men, in general, are in desperate need of schooling about effective flirting tips. Many guys who go looking to meet women invariably fall flat in their attempts to attract the right kind of attention. Instead of coming across as someone a woman would like to get to know, their flirting techniques can portray them as being ‘weirdos’, ‘crazies’, ‘creeps’ or ‘jerks’.
Being loud and aggressive and showing-off or bragging about yourself or your past conquests just doesn’t cut it. Neither does assuming that every woman craves sex within the first five minutes of meeting her. And coming across as desperate for a date, willing to do and say anything for approval are all great big turn-offs for a majority of women.
The art of catching a woman’s attention in a positive manner, or, in other words, being a good flirt, is not as difficult as many men seem to believe. And flirting with women is surprisingly easy with a little practice. By following just a few of the flirting tips suggested, you may well find yourself getting more dates than your “little black book” can handle!
- Flirt with one woman at a time. If you choose a woman to flirt with, you’re telling her that you think she’s special. It ruins the message if you think every woman in the room is special enough to flirt with, and it makes you look desperate and someone who can’t be trusted.
- Be sincere. If you end up saying something that sounds stupid, it’s better if you meant it honestly. You can be forgiven for sounding silly, but never for being dishonest.
- Keep your body language consistent. If you’re open to meeting this woman, then your posture should be open, your arms won’t be crossed, and your eyes should meet hers.
- Start at a distance and slowly work your way closer. Check her out from across the room, and if she notices you, smile at her. There isn’t any reason to pretend you weren’t checking her out – you were, and you’re going to be upfront about it, but you aren’t going to stare or drool. Not a good look!
- Don’t stare, especially at any body part that isn’t her eyes. You want to meet her eyes in a relaxed, casual and friendly way. Constantly checking out her “boobs” or cleavage is not a winning move.
- Don’t come any closer than arm’s length. If she wants to get closer to you, she can, but that’s her decision. Getting right next to her when she doesn’t know you will, most likely, make her move away from you. On the other hand, keeping a little bit of distance and speaking softly will encourage her to move closer to you on her own. And that’s what you want, isn’t it?
- Never, ever sneak up behind a woman to introduce yourself. If you ever do, hope that she doesn’t know martial arts and that she has a more than phenomenal sense of humor. Her first impression of you won’t be flattering and she’ll most likely remember you in a negative way.
Finally, keep your eye on her body language. If what you’re doing is working she will be flirting back. If she is smiling at you or constantly glancing at you and keeping her posture open, these are all positive signs that things are going well. Taking time to absorb and practice these flirting tips, and most importantly putting them into action, can only improve your chances of success with women.
