Some people are saying that Christian relationship advice for young adults is even more important today than it was ten or twenty years ago. Well, when you think about it, these days, navigating the dating minefield is hard enough even for those who do let Hollywood movies and popular magazines dictate their opinions.
If you plan to adhere to Christian moral values, that sometimes go against today’s social norms or trends, it can get even more complicated.
To make matters worse, sound Christian relationship advice isn’t easy to find. After all, the ‘Scriptures’ are fairly quiet on the subject of dating. However, if you’re beginning to feel ‘all at sea’ about what to do, here are some things to keep in mind that may help ease your problems when seeking a suitable relationship.
Don’t Feel Under Pressure
You, and only you, are responsible for your behavior. Modern society can be pretty casual about things, like club-hopping and having “friends with benefits”, and it’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you if you don’t want those things.
Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong about maintaining Christian values, so don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re “uncool” for doing so! Compromise your morals and, not only will you be angry with yourself, you’ll possibly end up in a relationship you’re not happy with. There really isn’t anything to gain from it.
Get a Christian Perspective
If you’re getting your relationship advice from a hodgepodge of self-help books and daytime talk shows, well, you’re bound to get confused! If you want solid Christian relationship advice, seek out material written by Christians, for Christians.
Advice on things like relationship break ups, dating someone of a different denomination, or a non-Christian, and how far to take physical intimacy, are all going to be a little different coming from a Christian than from anyone else. After all, that’s the whole point of Christian relationship advice.
Of course, that’s not to say you should only read material written by Christians. Getting a different perspective is useful, too. Just make sure you consider the source of the information before you actually take the advice.
Hang Out With Other Christians
Sounds obvious, doesn’t it? But, do you actually do it? If you want to date other Christians, you’ve got to go where the Christians are! When you’re busy with school, work, and other responsibilities, though, it’s easy to forget to set a side time for that. You need to make a point of looking for Christian volunteer activities, fellowship groups and even Christian dating services, where you can meet some new people of the same faith.
Dating For Marriage?
If you’re dating because you want to find a life partner, dating specifically for marriage will save you both time and whole lot of heartache. Keep in mind though, that just because a Christian isn’t dating just for the chance to sleep around, that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re dating for marriage!
They may just be dating to have some fun on the weekends, or purely for friendship. Don’t be shy about asking your date if they’re currently looking for “the one”, so to speak. If they’re not, and you are, perhaps you may want to stop seeing them, and look for someone more ‘marriage-minded’, rather than wasting your time and theirs.
If you’re hoping to find a fulfilling, loving relationship with another devout Christian, have faith that there’s someone out there looking for someone like you, too. With a little determination, patience and some trustworthy Christian relationship advice, you stand a pretty good chance of finding what you want.