What’s So Good About Dating Married Women? And What’s So Bad?!

In the U.S. statistics indicate that between 15-20% of married women date men other than their husbands. That means some 45 million plus American females are willing to get involved in adulterous relationships.

While these numbers may look good for guys keen on dating married women, maybe we should weigh up both the advantages and accompanying problems associated with having an affair with a woman who’s married.

What are some of the advantages of dating married women?

# At the top of the list, when dating a married woman, is the fact that you’ll most likely have some of the best intimate physical relationship you’ve ever experienced. Women who are willing to have an extra-marital affair aren’t necessarily searching for love, romance or attachment, it’s more of a physical outlet for them. And guys, because they are committed to the sexual, not emotional, aspects of the relationship, you will probably find this is the best sex you’ll ever have! If that’s what you’re after Whats So Good About Dating Married Women? And Whats So Bad?!

# There’s an element of secrecy. Dating a married woman adds a certain touch of excitement or ‘cloak and dagger’ to the relationship. Maybe you’ll meet her in the park during your lunch break or even sneak away for a ‘naughty’ weekend now and then. No matter how or where you have these secret rendezvous, a sense of danger adds spice to the illicit affair.

# Generally speaking, because your relationship is about sex, the married woman you’re dating isn’t free to really get involved with you. The affair won’t have all the emotional entanglements that ‘normal’ types of dating relationships often possess. Your married lover won’t expect you to get involved in the details or dramas of her life. In fact, the opposite is true. The more you know, the more she risks being found out, so she’ll more than likely to keep your secret relationship under ‘lock and key’.

# Another advantage, even though it might seem a bit stingy, is that you won’t have to fork out a lot of cash in the relationship. Aside from, say, the cost of a motel now and then, you won’t have normal dating expenses. You can’t take her to a restaurant as she may bump into somebody she knows. Also, you can’t really buy her romantic gifts and maybe jewelry because her husband might become suspicious.

# One final plus about dating married women is that some single women may start to find you more attractive. After all, if a woman is willing to risk her marriage for you, you must be something special! You’ve got the whole “alpha male” thing working for you!

Of course, it’s not all milk and honey, there are a few problems with dating a married woman.

# A major disadvantage is that her husband might find out about the cheating relationship. If this happens, there are a whole range of unpleasant scenarios, for example, he could insist that his wife end the affair immediately or she could find herself facing divorce. An ugly situation that I’m sure you’d rather not be involved in if at all possible.

# Another problem that can have serious consequences is that when some husbands discover their wives have been cheating on them, they’ve been known to commit violence against their straying wives and their partners. This is something I’m positive most men would rather avoid at all costs.

# This disadvantage of dating married women is rather ironic. It’s very uncommon for most men, who are seeing a woman for any length of time, not develop some sort of emotional attachment. What do you do if you fall in love with the woman with whom you’re having the affair? It does happen! If she’s not in a position to leave her husband, which is most likely the case, you may end up heartbroken.

# Finally, there is a moral dilemma that needs consideration. You run the risk of breaking up a family! What started as a casual, sexual affair might escalate into something that ends up having life-long consequences for your married lover’s family and, more importantly, her children. Are you prepared to accept the responsibility should this take place?

All in all, you have to consider both the advantages and disadvantages of dating married women. You need to be clear on why you want to be in a relationship where the stakes are high. Is it love or lust? Just be sure you know what you’re getting into beforehand, and perhaps, start thinking above your waist-line! Whats So Good About Dating Married Women? And Whats So Bad?!

  • Chris

    Dudu,

    a friend of mine was cheating on his wife. Him and his wife were hosting a huge dinner party one night, and he asked me to bring his mistress with, posing her to be my girlfriend…..

    I did it without thinking too much about it. Afterwards I tried to think what the whole deal was with him wanting his mistress at a dinner party. I could not really come up with a final answer, but one was that he is a huge risk taker, and he thought that nobody would suspect a thing if it happened right under their noses. He also gets big kicks out of doing dangerous things.

    Maybe he wanted his wife to catch him out and divorce him.

    The fact that your mistress brings her brother along is quite weird. After having been involved in an affair for more than 9 years, people usually make mistakes and get caught out because they drop their guard along the way.

    Good luck

  • Duduzane

    Hi there. Thanks for this topic and hope someone could help me to think and hope I can then cool mu head and make some decisions.

    I have been involved with someone for a quite while on an on-off basis but for about almost 9yrs.

    Im a married guy and she is married too. But my last encounter with her got me thinking abit. I was meeting up with her as usual but this time it was for a possible business deal and she was to bring along a colleague she works with.

    We met with my woman and the colleague,but only to learn that this business colleague or partner of hers is actually her own brother.

    Now someone must tell me why a married woman cheating on her husband (just like me on my wife) would want to travel miles with her own brother to go meet up with her boyfriend (me i.e) and she sees nothing wrong with it.

    It has got me asking a lot of questions , morally and otherwise . Is this woman really married ? Is she trying to get her family member (her brother) get to have preview of me and if so for what ?

    Please help coz I feel like Im about to be trapped in a maze I may not easily escape. I really do feel so strongly for this woman , but this has scared me and wanting to relook at this whole affarir.

    Dudu

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  • http://datekarma.blogspot.com Thomas Retterbush

    There was a time when I was younger, that I thought it was cool to see married women. It solved the problem of having to nurture a relationship.

    However, after I got older, I discovered all the problems and pain that dating married women can cause; such as breaking up marriages, breaking up families and distroying love.

    I just couldn’t do it anymore.

    If you have any morals, values or ideals, you cannot seriously think that dating married women is okay.

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    Dating married women can be stressful sometime. Its like fueling up infidelity to break up a relationship
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  • http://www.cebuanas.com/ Harry | Filipino women

    Thanks for posting this. It’s appreciated. However, if you are going to ask me who would I will date. I’ll choose single woman because I won’t have a problem with her when I decide to marry her. I will truly love them.

    • admin

      Thanks for your comment, Harry. I can see you’ve got your mind made up when it comes to dating married women. But, what if you didn’t know she was married, then she told you…would you end the relationship right there and then, even if you’d fallen in love with her?