“He loves me, he loves me not…” isn’t that how the old-fashioned ‘daisy love game’ goes? Have you been in the situation where you’re not just sure of your boyfriend’s true affections and wondered, “Does my boyfriend really love me?”.
It’s not a good feeling at all. You’re head over heels in love with your man, but you can’t get rid of that nagging suspicion at the back of your mind that he’s not really committed to you. Your boyfriend says he loves you, but you just don’t believe him.
Perhaps you’ve been in a previous bad relationship and had a boyfriend who said he loved you but turned out to be a cheater! Those types of experiences in love tend to make you wary of forming relationships and doubt the guys you meet. You don’t want to suffer the heartache again, you’ll do anything to avoid that pain!
In fact, you might always wonder “Does my boyfriend really love me?” no matter how often he might tell you. Can you get past this? Is it possible for you to give your love to someone again and be sure that it’s reciprocated?
That’s a tricky question and to say that there’s a definitive answer or method of ensuring that your feelings will never be hurt again is not only impossible, but unrealistic at best. Yet, perhaps, there are ways of protecting your heart from being broken by a boyfriend who doesn’t really love you.
How To Know If Your Boyfriend Really Loves You.
There are signs to watch for, such as the little things a boyfriend does that show his true feelings for you. Often, these actions are strong indications of his real affection for you, far more than anything he could ever put into words.
1. How does he treat you in public? When you’re with other people, does his treatment of you change?
2. Does he treat you with respect? Does he say please and thank you like he would to any stranger?
3. How much does he expect of you? Does he demand that you overcompensate for every nice thing he does for you?
4. Does he treat your family with respect, and try to make a good impression with them?
5. Does he take you for granted, and not let you know how much he appreciates you and all that you do for him?
If you answered ‘no’ to any of the points above, that doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. But, if you answered ‘no’ more than once, you need to carefully examine his actions. It raises the proverbial ‘red flag’!
He may say he loves you every day, maybe several times a day, but nothing gives away his true feelings more than his actions. In fact, someone who says it too much might be doing so to try to convince himself, or you, that it’s true when it really isn’t!
If he treats you like you’re precious when you’re alone but acts as if you’re not there when you’re with your friends, think about why that might be. Someone who loves you should be able to show it no matter where you are or whom you’re with.
A boyfriend who treats your friends and family with respect is much more likely to feel genuine love for you than one who is rude to your family or doesn’t seem to want to get along with them at all.
If your guy truly cares about you, he’ll want to be able to get along with the people you care about or who are important to you. And, while thoughts of marriage may be years away, alienating your family and friends would definitely be a poor choice in any event.
The most useful advice you can follow, when trying to figure out whether your boyfriend really loves you or not, is simply to notice what he does.
So, next time you ask yourself, “Does my boyfriend really love me?” pay attention to his actions and you’ll most likely have your answer!
Remember the old and wise saying, “Actions speak louder than words“.
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