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Breakups are one of the most devastating experiences a person can have, and it is only a rare few who don’t have to endure at least one breakup in their life. Sometimes the reasons behind a breakup are obvious and unavoidable, but at other times it might not be so clear. Maybe he left because he wasn’t sure where the relationship was headed, or maybe you left him because you thought something was lacking, only to realize, as time passed, that you made a huge mistake and he truly was your ideal man.

If that’s happened to you, probably the biggest question on your mind is ‘how to get him back’? The first and most important thing to do is figure out why the relationship ended in the first place. This is the most important thing to know when trying to get your ex back. Be cautious though, if the reason for your breakup had anything to do with controlling, abusive, or cheating behavior. You need to seriously ask yourself whether this is a relationship you really want.

If, however, you do realize that your breakup was a mistake, and you are still in love with your ex, remember what it was that made him want to be with you when your relationship first started. Look at whether that quality is still there, or whether it has changed. If you are different now, this may be the reason he left. In this case, you may want to consider whether you are happier the way you are now, or whether you should go back to the way you used to be. All changes are not positive past a certain extent. One example of this is opening up to your partner. Sharing is a good thing, but sharing too much may be what has driven him away. You may want to be close, and believe that if you truly love each other you will accept every detail about the other’s life, but do you really want to know all the intimate details of his past?

Take your past memories with him and use them as a weapon, so to speak. Remind him of the great times that the two of you had together. Does he remember what he is missing out on now that you’re no longer in his life? Wear his favorite outfit and make sure he takes notice. The purpose isn’t to inspire jealousy, but to open his eyes to what he used to see in you before the breakup.

At the same time, it is important that you do not go about trying to get a man back through manipulation or mere hints. Be honest with him. Talk directly to him, either face-to-face or on the phone, but let him know that you wish things could have worked out and that you really want another chance for that to happen. It will be more important to him than you may realize to hear these words, and this much honesty about how you feel. Ask him directly what went wrong and if it could be fixed. And if the answer is yes, ask him if you both could give it a try.

Try a few of these steps and you may find that it’s not impossible to get him back. You need to realize though, that sometimes, no matter what you do, it may not work out a second time. You can’t alter someone else’s feelings, no matter how much you may want to. If he tries to take advantage of you or seems lukewarm about getting back together, you’re probably better off without him. But if he wants to try again with you, congratulations!