Trying to get over someone you love, who’s left you for some reason, will never be simple nor straightforward. Anyone who has lost out in love will tell you it takes time, and you’ll have to find your own way of working through it.
Whatever you do, don’t listen to anyone who says they’ve got the perfect formula to get over someone you love, and tells you precisely how long it will take in months, weeks and days. There’s no set time period for getting over a lost love! Everyone has their own method of coping with difficulties, especially when it comes to a relationship break up.
Every relationship is unique, just like the people involved, and to say how long it SHOULD take to heal a broken heart is just crazy. There’s no ‘one-size-fits-all solution’ to getting over someone you love.
Need Help To Get Over Someone You Love?
However, having said that, if you’re still moping around, constantly depressed and dissolving into a teary wreck at the drop of a hat, a month or so after the break up, perhaps you do need help. And, if this state of despair continues even longer, professional help may be the answer.
Being able to talk to someone who’s opinions and advice will be objective can help greatly. Of course, that’s not saying your friends or family can’t be of assistance during this time of pain, but often it’s easier to discuss your emotions and innermost feelings with someone you don’t know.
Obviously, you just want to get over it and be happy again. But, sometimes, people who have had their feelings hurt badly tend to think they must put their lives on hold. By becoming some kind of recluse, they believe they can’t be hurt again. Don’t fall into that trap! Even if you don’t feel like dating just yet, there’s no reason why you can’t go out with your friends and have fun.
As well as this, you need to keep moving forward with your life in order to get over someone you love. Once you’ve gotten over the initial heartache of the loss, simple, small steps like tossing out anything that reminds you of your ex can help the healing process. Get rid of any photos, gifts or other items you might have that will only serve as painful memories of your relationship.
You could even go to the extent of repainting or refurnishing where you live if that’s what it takes to get your life back on track after a relationship has ended.
The Wrong Way to Get Over Someone You Love
However, there is a flip side to the positives mentioned above. When trying to get over someone they love, it’s easy for some people to slip into certain destructive behaviors such as, getting romantically involved too quickly with someone new or drinking and eating to excess. No, rebound relationships and binge drinking or eating are not effective ways to mend a broken heart. These are things YOU must avoid.
In summing up, it will take time to get over a relationship coming to an end, there’s no way around that fact. How long it takes, well, that’s up to you.
You have to do everything you can to ease the trauma a permanent break up can cause. Take positive action, keep moving forward and refrain from falling into bad habits or irresponsible behavior that you’ll only regret later.
There’s no point in beating yourself up about what has happened, you can’t change the past. It’s never easy to get over someone you love, but be confident in the knowledge that you will love again.
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