Think You Know How To Flirt?
Do you think you know how to flirt? First, see if you’re already following these 6 tips, and then we’ll take it from there.
1. Smile. This sounds obvious, but it’s actually controversial. One dating expert advises men not to smile too much when they’re with women, because it signals “beta” male characteristics. Not smiling can generate a lot of tension in the right circumstances. However, the beneifits of putting a woman at ease usually outweigh all other considerations early on in the interaction.
2. Play off things she says or does. This is known as “passive” flirting, or “trigger banter”. If you’ve ever been around a guy who “always” seems to have the right thing to say, you know how attractive women can find this. It’s a sign of a quick wit and intelligence. Here’s a secret, though. You don’t have to just make stuff up on the spot. If you plan carefully you can come up with great “spontaneous-looking” responses to many common situations, and look brilliant when they happen. Example: a woman bends down to tie her shoe in front of you . . . you can say “wow, you’re the third woman this week who has tried to propose to me. I’ll have to get back to you later with my decision.” If you don’t like that one, make up your own and pull it out when the circumstance arises.
3. Be arrogant. Now this one needs some explanation. I didn’t say “be a jerk”. This is a “playful” arrogance. If you bump your head, smile and say “it’s a good thing I’m the man of steel.” Keep a smile close at hand, and you can get away with a truckload of arrogance. And most women will love it.
4. Thumbs forward. What? How is this going to help you know how to flirt? OK, this is a little strange perhaps, but have you ever seen a guy with his shoulders rolled forward, and the back of his hands facing forward when he walks? That is a “beta” male posture. Check yourself on this. Make sure when you walk your arms swing naturally, and your thumbs point forward, so your hands are parallel with your body. Seriously, if you’re doing this wrong, you have no idea how much this disqualifies you from the start.
5. Subtly imply that she’s being naughty. How early you do this depends on the situation and the woman. With some women in some situations you can use innuendo right away. And with others you have to wait for a more advanced stage in the relationship. But eventually, you want her to take on a “naughty” self image. Example: Bait her by saying something ambiguous. Get her to give you a smile. Then say, “I wasn’t saying THAT” (as if she’s got a dirty mind).
6. Try a deeper voice. Try not to sound like a cartoon, but try going deeper. Try to have some resonance in your chest when you talk. Think of your voice vibrating through her.
Learn how to flirt well, and you’ll be happy. You’ll be popular with women. And you’ll have interpersonal skills that will transfer to all the other areas of your life as well.
About the Author:
T.P. (PhD) wrote “Flirting Decosntructed”. Discover your flirting IQ with his free flirting quiz at http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/flirt_quiz.php
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