Modern Relationships. What Do Men Really Want?
If you read the glossy magazines targeting women you could be forgiven for thinking that the only thing men want from a modern relationship is sex. Whilst it may very well be true that a physical relationship ranks high, if not at the top, on their list of priorities, men are looking for more than that from their partner.
For the most part, men don’t want their women to be needy (the sex thing notwithstanding). Whilst he’s happy to play the macho-guy who protects his fair maid from the wicked dragon, he doesn’t want a maiden who needs him to pick up her handkerchief – or her dry cleaning!
He’s looking for a woman who can deliver him all the home comforts his mother was giving him, plus a few perks on the side – and not to mention have his partner pay her share of the bills. He’d also like tolerance of his monopoly of the TV during the live sporting events that interest him, together with the obligatory replays, and for the appropriate match snacks to be available to him when he wants them.
In short, many men these days want it all. Whilst they will usually say that they don’t want “a little woman at home” with a description of the traditional 1950s wife, they still want to feel that they are master of their home. One reason that they won’t want a “little woman at home” however could be that they need their partner to be out at work with earning potential helping to maintain a certain standard of living!
On top of this they need their partner to be responsible for ensuring that their children are fed, clothed and take little or no interest in which schools they attend or who their friends are. In short, from a modern relationship, men want it all!
To be fair, however, today’s women want the same. They want to have the nice home and ensure that their family is healthy. They want to go out to work and earn money so that they have some degree of financial independence that women of the past lacked.
There’s a cost to all of this however, and that’s in terms of the stress it can create within the relationship as the man lives a fantasy life and his partner lives what she thought was a dream but finds the reality somewhat impossible to live up to.
There are certain aspects of her life that she has little control over, such as caring for children, responsibility at work, and as a result the one thing that does suffer is the relationship that she has with her partner.
This could bring us full circle to the one thing that men want in a modern relationship being sex – but not because their partner doesn’t want it, rather because they just don’t have time or energy because of all the other stuff that comes with today’s modern relationships.
