Starting off a new relationship with someone, especially when it’s romantic in nature, can be tricky.
Obviously, you’re initial attraction to one another has set the ball rolling, however, how do you keep a new romance from hitting that proverbial brick wall?
There are many little obstacles that can get in the way of a blossoming romance, that it’s hard not for things to go wrong. But, there are methods of getting around the “mucking up” stages. So, let’s have a look at some suggestions for how NOT to mess up a new relationship.
After all, you’ve had a great beginning, so setting a few guidelines for your new relationship might just be what’s needed.
Here are some common ‘relationship-wreckers’, in no particular order of importance, that may cause you to screw up a new love affair before it has even started:
Not everyone is comfortable when it comes to displaying affection in public places. You know, kissing, cuddling, holding hands and all the other physical intimacies that go with showing romantic intentions to your new lover. You, or your partner, may get embarrassed with ‘touchy-feely’ behavior, especially if it’s done in public, or in the company of friends and family.
If this is the case, you need to talk it over with your partner, and set boundaries regarding what is acceptable. It’s really not a big issue, but one that has the potential to ruin a relationship if not handled properly.
Spending Time Alone As A Couple
Going out on dates with a group of friends is great, and many couples do it. However, it’s equally important for you and your partner to have time alone to do things as a couple. Getting to know one another, away from the distractions and influence of others, forms the basis of a strong, healthy relationship.
Are You Suffocating Your New Relationship?
It’s easy, at the beginning of a romantic relationship, for couples to want to be with each other 24/7. But, while that’s completely normal, it’s a potential recipe for disaster! Being together all the time, living in each other’s pockets, and forgoing the life you had before you met, will eventually lead to boredom.
Keep in mind, your partner was attracted to you, and vice versa, partly because of who you were, and what you did as an individual. If you smother one another, by constantly being together, that once alluring ‘attraction factor’ may quickly begin to fade.
Hold Off Planning The Future
Talking about, or making plans for your future as a couple, early on in a relationship is a BIG mistake. Who knows how long you’ll be together? It might be over in a week, or even sooner! Move slowly. There’s no need to rush into things.
Take your time to see if the relationship has the qualities to be long-term, then, if you both are of the same opinion, you can take it to the next level. Just be aware, that sprinting to the finish line is not always a wise move; remember the old fable of the hare and the tortoise.
Don’t Self-Sabotage Your Romance!
Do you sabotage a new relationship even before it has a chance to get off the ground? There are many people who undermine their chances of finding love and romance by repeating destructive and negative behavior patterns from one relationship to the next.
Learning how to stop eroding romance due to insecurity, fear of intimacy, pessimism, defensiveness and breaking trust and more, and preparing yourself for a happy, healthy relationship, can lead to finding and keeping the long-lasting love you desire.
Don’t isolate yourself, or refuse to get to know your partner’s family and friends. This doesn’t mean that you have to best buddies with them, or that you have to be the life of the party. But, being friendly and approachable, and feeling at ease in their company, just makes it pleasant for all concerned.
Keep In Touch With Friends
Have you suddenly become a friendless orphan? It’s quite amazing how often this happens. When starting a new relationship or romance, those involved for some reason or another,seem to neglect their own friends and family. They shut them out of their lives.
Not only is this rude and nonsensical, but it also tends to cause unnecessary friction and bad blood. It also makes it much harder to re-establish relationships should the new love affair go sour.
Be Honest – Don’t Hide Your Past!
Keeping things about yourself hidden from your new love is a huge error of judgment. If you want to form a healthy and loving relationship with someone, telling lies or half-truths is not the way to go. It can only backfire on you.
Be Discrete and Respectful
Is there any need for people, either just beginning a relationship or involved long-term with someone, to brag about the level or frequency of their sexual intimacy? Do your friends and acquaintances require full disclosure of what you and your lover do in the bedroom?
The short answer is no. There’s something missing in a relationship if sex is the only topic of conversation, or it becomes the cornerstone of why you and your partner are together.
Hopefully, you’ll find the above suggestions useful for helping to avoid a premature ending of a new relationship. There’s nothing more deflating or upsetting than to have a your hopes of love and romance come crashing down due to something you could have easily fixed.