The Pros and Cons of a Cheating Spouse Support Group

Cheating spouse support groups are, unfortunately, growing in rapid numbers all around the world as more and more people are turning to one another for guidance and advice However, what one person perceives as a negative quality may indeed be a positive aspect of the whole support group process, so much like anything we must decide upon, the decision to join a cheating spouse support group mainly boils down to being merely a matter of personal opinion and choice.

What type of person are you? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Do you enjoy sharing your feelings and opinions with others, or are you more of a quiet, tight-lipped type of person? Would you prefer an online support group where you can communicate with others via forum posts, email and instant messages, or would you rather attend meetings in person so you can really get to know the people and quickly learn their stories?

The answers to all of those questions should help you to decide whether or not a cheating spouse support group would be something of benefit to you, or if you’re better off finding another form of support to get through this tough time. But, as the old saying goes, there’s really no harm in trying, and if you happen to find that it simply isn’t for you, just leave the group and wish everyone well in their future endeavors.

Misery Does Love Company

After a spouse has cheated, and has broken the ultimate sacred vows of marriage, not to mention your heart and your trust, the often long road to recovery, either with or without them in your life, can most certainly be a lonely one. However, after joining a support group, loneliness definitely goes right out the window as you’ll quickly be surrounded by people who already know what you’re going through and will be there to lend an ear or a few encouraging words when you need them.

Besides the genuine caring and camaraderie you’ll find at these types of forums, there are many other benefits to be had such as virtual libraries of informative articles written by counselors and learned people of all walks of life offering invaluable advice, as well as numerous references and referrals, and also links to marriage counselors and divorce attorneys all over the world.

Becoming Mired in Anger

Many times friendships are quickly formed amongst participants of a support group, which is definitely a positive thing as one can never have too many good friends or too much support, unless, however, those friendships are based purely on anger, with one person feeding off the other’s self-destructive thoughts and behaviors.

This is definitely one of the cons of some cheating spouse support groups, although, it can be avoided by following the guidance of the group’s leaders or moderators, as well as remembering what the main purpose of joining was in the first place, to heal yourself and become healthy, independent, and happy.

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  • nick

    how can i find one of these support group for my area or near my area. looking for people group not a forum or online group.

    • admin

      Hi Nick,

      There are a lot of “online” support groups for people who have been cheated on, such as http://www.chatcheaters.com and http://www.dailystrength.org However, here is a link to an offline support group for infidelity that may help you out – http://www.beyondaffairs.com/BAN_support_groups.htm – scroll to near the bottom and you’ll see a link to “List of Cities” and go from there. Please note that this is not a recommendation of the site. I haven’t used it, but from what I can gather, it seems O.K. Just use it as a starting point. Please let me know how you get on.