Relationships - One Size Doesn’t Fit All!
What type of relationship are you looking for? A quick, fun, and casual relationship or one that is more serious?. Perhaps you’re trying to find that dream girl or guy to marry, or maybe you’re just looking for “a friend with benefits”. Whatever kind of relationship you want, you know you’ll need a different approach to get a different end result.
Here are a few descriptions of various relationships – choose which one you’d prefer:
Casual and quick: This is the classic, “no expectations” relationship that “players” are famous for. You might meet once or twice and have fun, but you really don’t expect to see them again, and you don’t really care.
‘Pros’: It’s easy to date a lot of people this way, and it can be wild and exciting for a while.
‘Cons’: You don’t really get to “know” anyone, and getting intimate physically before you’re intimate emotionally can have serious side effects, such as a trail of angry and bitter lovers left in your wake. A bad reputation caused by this kind of dating can seriously damage your future relationships.
Casual and friendly: You might be dating several people at once – they all know you’re not serious yet, and all of you are free to date other people.
‘Pros’: If you’re not ready to settle down or you’re still deciding what type of person you’d like to date, this is the way to go.
‘Cons’: Sometimes a small thing will send the relationship down a more serious path, and you might not realize it until asked your opinion about the wedding invitations. Then, you need to gently bring the relationship back where it was, or you have some explaining to do to your other casual dates.
Serious and friendly: You’re in an exclusive relationship with someone, and they’re exclusively dating you. It could be because you haven’t found anyone else to compare with them, or it could be that you’re thinking of making a formal commitment. Either way, you’re both happy and neither of you wants to see anyone else.
‘Pros’: You really know this person, and they really know you. You’re comfortable with each other, and neither of you is going anywhere without at least trying to work out any problems.
‘Cons’: People will ask if you’re engaged yet, and they won’t quit until they hear about you’re wedding plans. Also, being comfortable in your relationship might make you “lazy in love” as well. Getting into a rut can spell danger for a relationship.
On the Rebound: This is the type of relationship you sometimes get into in order to get over the last one. There’s nothing really good about this one at all! The ‘ghost of the relationship past’ keeps messing with anything you might have with your new partner, and you’re still confused about what you should and shouldn’t expect. There are only ‘Cons’ involved with rebound relationships.
Your best bet is to let the old relationship blow completely over before you start a new one. The same goes for any potential love interest – refuse to date anyone who’s still talking about their last boyfriend, girlfriend, lover or spouse as if they’re still a part of their life.
Making a decision about what type of relationship you desire that fits in with your present lifestyle is really quite important. Know what you want from a relationship, then make it a priority to socialize in places that are conducive to meeting people with the same intentions. There’s no sense in making things more difficult than they need to be. Whatever your relationship agenda, above all else, just be sure it’s the type that suits you.
Hi and Welcome. Obviously, you're seeking information about Relationship Issues & Problems, and we hope you have found what you require. However, if you wish, you can always subscribe to our complimentary RSS update feed (the orange icon at the top right-hand side of the page or the email 'subscribe' box). Then you'll be able to keep up-to-date with all the Relationship Issues - articles, tips and more. Have a good browse around 'Relationship Roadblocks' and feel free to comment on any of the entries that take your interest. Thanks for visiting and come back often.
